Seeking to Find YOURSELF? Stop Looking.

“Then He said to them all, “If anyone wants to come with Me (after Me), he must deny himself, take up his cross daily, and follow Me. For whoever wants to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life because of Me will save it.” Luke 9:23-24

I recently thought through the lyrics of a catchy song (lines below) and began thinking about how people fall into the worldly trap of trying to ‘find themselves’. Some, in their attempt to ‘find themselves’ find Jesus instead. What mercy!  Some, who know only religion, attempt to ‘find themselves’ thinking they are missing a better life when they remain in their tired relationships (e.g.: marriage, siblings, parents). Do we REALLY understand that to truly ‘find’ ourselves we must ‘lose’ ourselves instead in Jesus?  What if while in a fatigued relationship your feelings of rejection, bitterness, and your tired grieved soul prompts you to desire a ‘better you’ by deserting the relationship?  If you asked the Lord, how do you think He would respond to your extramural search to ‘find yourself’ ultimately hoping for a ‘better you’?  As the verse in Matthew explains, if you cling to YOUR life (meaning:  ‘to find by inquiry, thought, examination, scrutiny, observation, to find out by practice and experience’ – Strongs) you will ultimately lose it.  But in GIVING UP your life for Christ, you discover true living and ultimately ‘find yourself’ in Christ.

Have you ever considered that to ‘find yourself’ you must die to self?  Galatians speaks in terms of the meaning of being crucified in Christ is to identify with Him in His death in such a way as to allow Him to live through you.

“If you cling to your life, you will lose it; but if you give up your life for me, you will find it.” Matthew 10:39

“And if you do not carry your own cross and follow me, you cannot be my disciple. ”              Luke 14:27

“I no longer live, but Christ lives in me. The life I now live in the body, I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave Himself for me.”                                                                     Galatians 2:20

“Tell me did the wind sweep you off your feet
Did you finally get the chance to dance along the light of day
And head back to the milky way
And tell me, did Venus blow your mind
Was it everything you wanted to find
And did you miss me while you were looking for yourself out there” (Train – Drops of Jupiter)

If you are curious enough to check out the full lyrics maybe you will find like me, that the lines speak of the arrogance of man in our quest to try to ‘find ourselves’. Thank you Lord that because of your great mercy You have astounding patience with Your beloved creation . I just love you.

DIVAs, whatever post (see blog dated 6-14-2016) the Lord has put in your charge do not abandon it in hopes of an easier arena to guard and protect.  The enemy would have you think the answer to your unhappiness, boredom, lack of control, or a lack of being exalted will be found in a different set of circumstances or in a search to ‘find yourself’.   However, the idea that you must stop searching for yourself is “Jesus’ most common refrain in the Gospels.”  (Holman).

Let’s keep in mind that Christ’s purpose in calling us to deny ourselves stretches far beyond what we can imagine.  In denying our selfishness and our ambition, as well as our pasts, and our flawed mentalities we get His plans for us which sweeps beyond what our hearts could ever imagine would satisfy.  You are much loved!


In His grace,



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