Seeking to Find YOURSELF? Stop Looking.

“Then He said to them all, “If anyone wants to come with Me (after Me), he must deny himself, take up his cross daily, and follow Me. For whoever wants to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life because of Me will save it.” Luke 9:23-24

I recently thought through the lyrics of a catchy song (lines below) and began thinking about how people fall into the worldly trap of trying to ‘find themselves’. Some, in their attempt to ‘find themselves’ find Jesus instead. What mercy!  Some, who know only religion, attempt to ‘find themselves’ thinking they are missing a better life when they remain in their tired relationships (e.g.: marriage, siblings, parents). Do we REALLY understand that to truly ‘find’ ourselves we must ‘lose’ ourselves instead in Jesus?  What if while in a fatigued relationship your feelings of rejection, bitterness, and your tired grieved soul prompts you to desire a ‘better you’ by deserting the relationship?  If you asked the Lord, how do you think He would respond to your extramural search to ‘find yourself’ ultimately hoping for a ‘better you’?  As the verse in Matthew explains, if you cling to YOUR life (meaning:  ‘to find by inquiry, thought, examination, scrutiny, observation, to find out by practice and experience’ – Strongs) you will ultimately lose it.  But in GIVING UP your life for Christ, you discover true living and ultimately ‘find yourself’ in Christ.

Have you ever considered that to ‘find yourself’ you must die to self?  Galatians speaks in terms of the meaning of being crucified in Christ is to identify with Him in His death in such a way as to allow Him to live through you.

“If you cling to your life, you will lose it; but if you give up your life for me, you will find it.” Matthew 10:39

“And if you do not carry your own cross and follow me, you cannot be my disciple. ”              Luke 14:27

“I no longer live, but Christ lives in me. The life I now live in the body, I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave Himself for me.”                                                                     Galatians 2:20

“Tell me did the wind sweep you off your feet
Did you finally get the chance to dance along the light of day
And head back to the milky way
And tell me, did Venus blow your mind
Was it everything you wanted to find
And did you miss me while you were looking for yourself out there” (Train – Drops of Jupiter)

If you are curious enough to check out the full lyrics maybe you will find like me, that the lines speak of the arrogance of man in our quest to try to ‘find ourselves’. Thank you Lord that because of your great mercy You have astounding patience with Your beloved creation . I just love you.

DIVAs, whatever post (see blog dated 6-14-2016) the Lord has put in your charge do not abandon it in hopes of an easier arena to guard and protect.  The enemy would have you think the answer to your unhappiness, boredom, lack of control, or a lack of being exalted will be found in a different set of circumstances or in a search to ‘find yourself’.   However, the idea that you must stop searching for yourself is “Jesus’ most common refrain in the Gospels.”  (Holman).

Let’s keep in mind that Christ’s purpose in calling us to deny ourselves stretches far beyond what we can imagine.  In denying our selfishness and our ambition, as well as our pasts, and our flawed mentalities we get His plans for us which sweeps beyond what our hearts could ever imagine would satisfy.  You are much loved!


In His grace,



4 Comments on “Seeking to Find YOURSELF? Stop Looking.”

  1. What a great post! I’ve always disliked the phrase “finding yourself” because it never made sense to me. If believers then we are Christ’s and our identity is in Him and that’s enough. It truly is hard to die to self and it’s something that needs to be prayed for each day, but what a blessing when we feel Christ’s life rise up in us! Praise His name!

  2. I love this post. I have been in this place wondering if maybe God does have something better for me…Trying to persuade my mind that this was so, wanting to believe my heart’s emotions were true! But, deep down knowing, it wasn’t. It wasn’t easy laying that down but I did. Now looking back, I see how foolish I was. Really almost desperate for change…But God is totally coming thru for me! It’s definitely not all I’m praying for yet, but I have hope! He is so amazing & faithful & I pray He keeps me remembering it will all be in His perfect timing! Dying to self is hard & my prayer is for Him to help me understand better what that means in my life. He is so merciful & patient & faithful! Have a blessed week everyone!

  3. Since living my life for Christ, I have found so much freedom in Him. I don’t have to worry about so many things that the world worries about. I know I’m fearfully and wonderfully made in Him. I am who God says I am, not what others think.

    Last night on the Olympics, 2 synchronized divers from the U.S. won the silver. When it was announced they won, they were both seen praying with their coach! Afterwards when they asked about how they did it and their preparation, they said it was their identity in Christ that helped them just be in the moment, live with joy, perform their best, and ignore any of the hype/stress around them. I just loved that! What a great testimony for all to hear and see!

  4. Thank You Jesus that we can lose ourselves in You, and there find our purpose. The world will try and tell you that you have to find yourself, that you have to figure out who you are, BUT when you seek Jesus instead, He already knows who you are, Let Him define you.
    Jesus, I confess I sometimes mistakenly see myslef through the world’s lense. Help me to truly lose my life in you, so that I can find true life. Thank You, what a mercy to lose our lives and find You. What goodness, what glorious, incomprehensible faithfulness. Your Love Lord is so big. Hallelujah!

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